I bet you’ve done it too, at some point.
All of us have that one friend (or two or three friends) that seems to have it all. She is beautiful—perfect complexion, fit, and isn’t bigger than a size four. She’s funny, and everyone loves to be around her. Her clothes aren’t purchased at Old Navy, and she carries a designer purse. She lives in one of the nicest neighborhoods in town. She has two children that are smart, involved in everything, and they are happy kids. Her husband helps with it all–dinner, driving kids to their activities, homework–and he always compliments and supports your amazing friend.
You envy her—because it looks like she has the perfect, most incredible life.
Why can’t you have a life like that? Instead, you run around in workout clothes all day, hair thrown back in a ponytail or headband, but you haven’t worked out—this is just your usual getup. No makeup or Botox here, just a bunch of wrinkles and blemishes. Your kids stress you out because they argue with each other the entire time in the car. They don’t do too many after-school activities because honestly you just don’t have the energy (or the money) to have them partake in a million interests. You feel like the worst mom, the least attractive wife, and you are a complete failure. Why can’t you do it all and have it all like your friend?
It’s really sad how we can suck our own happiness out of our own lives because we compare our lives to our friends’ highlight reels. We easily perceive someone’s life as being perfect, shiny, and incredible. We wish we had more money like them, went on vacations like they do, and were blessed with model-like looks. It’s so unfair.
Here’s the deal, though. We cannot compare our lives to others. We need to look at and value what we have. When we don’t appreciate what we have, how can we possibly be happy?
I have a lot to be grateful for….my husband has a job that allows me to choose if I want to work or stay home. My kids might argue often, but they are great kids and they respect each other and would do anything for their friends. We are all relatively healthy. My family can afford food. Vacation might be to visit family members, but how lucky we are to have family to spend time with. Many of my clothes are purchased at Marshall’s or Target, but I can still rock it with these less expensive clothes when I want to.
A happy life is a grateful life. Overvaluing what someone else has will only bring unhappiness—how can you possibly be happy if you are grumbling about someone else’s life and complaining about what they have?
I found this quote online—it goes perfectly with this post. Never undervalue what you have—and never overvalue what others have. There is so much to appreciate right in front of you—know and believe that.