I’ve mostly been a stay-at-home mom for the past eleven years. Yes, I’ve worked part-time for the past four years, but my job is one that allows my workday to end when my kids get home from school. Some of my friends don’t consider my work actual “work” since it’s only three days a week, and it involves working with kids (I beg to differ, but that’s for another post). So, basically, I am a stay-at-home mom more than anything.
Even after the past eleven years, why do I still struggle with telling people I’m just a stay-at-home mom when they ask me what I do for a living? Why do some people look at stay-at-home moms as nothings?
It’s OK to be “just a mom” as a job title, isn’t it? Isn’t parenting the most important job ever? Shouldn’t it be OK to put our kids first, and running our household ahead of a career? So, why do I feel guilty about it? Why do I feel like I don’t have an important “title”?
I’m not knocking working moms. They are amazing. They work full-time jobs and deal with stress at work only to come home in the evening so they can make dinner, help with homework, manage household chores, and take kids to and from activities. They are super heroes.
But aren’t stay-at-home moms just as amazing? They often are the ones that volunteer at schools and help run the PTO. They are able to help neighbors with their kids during the day. Husbands don’t have to take days off of work to handle any maintenance issues and daytime appointments because stay-at-home moms can do it. These moms are super heroes too, right?
Yes, the guilt comes sometimes, I am embarrassed to state that I’m just a mom, and I feel like I need some other important title. But, you know what? I love being a mom. I love being able to stay home with my girls and help at their schools when I can. My mom job is tougher than any job I’ve ever held in the corporate world. I know not everyone can afford to stay home, and I’m grateful that I can choose to.
You know what? It is OK to be “just a mom”. In fact, most days it rocks.