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Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve

I had a week last week. It was one of those weeks where I moaned and groaned and did the whole “poor me” thing most days….

I should’ve been a librarian.

I should’ve never quit my job.

I would’ve volunteered this week if someone had asked me.

I could’ve been a better mom today if I had read that second book to the girls.

Could’ve. Would’ve. Should’ve.

Do you over-fill your head with these thoughts some days too? I can easily make one “could’ve” turn into hundreds. Then I am down and miserable about myself. Then I want others to tell me that all of that stuff isn’t true, and I am an amazing person. Then I just want to sit on the couch and feel sorry for myself as a wolf down a pint of cookie dough ice cream.

That’s the point where I tell myself I need to get over it. I need to be an adult and be responsible and accountable for my decisions and not mope over them.

One thing I need to remind myself of sometimes, and I’m here to remind you, too, is that it’s never too late.

You should’ve never quit your job? Well, then go an get another one. Or contact your old employer and let them know you’re interested in returning if something opens. You should’ve gone down a certain career path? Then go do it! You could’ve been a better mom? We all could be better at something, you can’t beat yourself up.

We are all doing this life thing the best we can.

We all have regrets.

We are the only ones that can make changes for ourselves.

So instead of pulling the “poor me” card, do something about it.

You always wanted to be a teacher, doctor,  or a (fill in the blank here)? Then go for it! Do what you love and don’t live regretting that you didn’t.

Someone makes you unhappy? We all deserve happiness, so it might be time to have a heart-to-heart with that person or make the decision to move on and find happiness in yourself or elsewhere.

You must take care of you. No one or no thing can make you happy. As I get older, I realize more and more that I am in control of my life, my wants and needs, and I need to make the changes to be who I want to be and live the life I want to live.

I can’t “poor me” all day long, because it gets me nowhere. I need to get up off the couch and decide what I want to do and make the changes to achieve it.

We can’t beat ourselves up over every little thing. There’s always going to be something we should’ve done, we could’ve changed, or we would’ve completed. It’s up to us to decide if we are going to do those things, make those changes, or complete those goals.

So, a little less “poor me”, y’all. And a little more, “I can, I will, I should….”

Be more kind to you, and take care of what you need to feel happy and successful.