I’m an introvert. That has a lot to be proud of, and I choose to often stay true to my introverted ways. There are times that I will “act” like I’m an extrovert when I need to, but I will end up going back to my introverted ways.
I not a big fan of parties. I’ll go to them, but I’m not upset if it gets cancelled or if there are other commitments keeping me from going.
I don’t talk about myself to others. I am not comfortable sharing things about me, my past, etc. around others, so many feel like I’m hard to get to know. I am way more comfortable sharing things about me via writing or online versus in person. I prefer to share that way because I’m not comfortable being the center of attention in a public setting.
I am not the employee that will be outspoken at meetings. Sure, I can be an extrovert and lead a meeting when I am required to, but I do not need to speak just to be heard. I prefer to observe and then speak individually or with a small group about issues or concerns.
I am a firm but quiet leader. I confront when necessary, I plan and come up with ideas and long-term goals, but I am OK giving tasks to others and letting them have the spotlight. I don’t need to be the center of attention.
I am a great listener. I hear what others are saying, and I take some time to respond. I need time to process what was said and to observe to make sure I have thought through what I think a correct response would be.
I don’t mind eating alone, working out alone, shopping alone, etc. I like getting together with friends, but I need downtime by myself so I can recharge.
I have great ideas, but sometimes they get overlooked because I am not more of an extrovert. Sometimes my comments or ideas get passed by, but later on someone will realize that they were great ideas that should have been implemented.
Being an introvert has not held me back. I’ve held large corporate positions, I’ve aced work interviews and graduate school ones. I have a great network of friends and enjoy my social life. I am a successful introvert, and so are all of us. We just manage our lives and the situations around us in a quieter way than an extrovert would. We are the strong, silent type.
I have an introverted daughter. We don’t call her “shy”. She’s an introvert. She’s quieter than her extroverted peers, and I don’t expect her to try to speak up more or socialize more than she does.. I recently read a book called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. This was such a powerful book that discussed all that the introvert provides to society and what great innovators and leaders they make. While the book helped me appreciate my introverted ways, it also reminded me that I need to teach my daughter to be proud of her strengths. We already praise her for many of the introvert qualities she shows already. She is respected by a lot of her friends (and my adult friends). She is smart, dedicated to what she believes in, and will not volunteer to be the leader but can take the lead if she is required or requested to. She is not outspoken about her accomplishments, and she doesn’t need constant attention. She has days where she prefers to be a homebody, and she hangs out in her bedroom to read, make crafts, or watch TV. Will she be a successful leader as an adult even though she is introverted? I have no doubt she will. Introverts are respected, think through ideas and decisions, and are comfortable working independently.
Introverts are successful leaders. Their silence is valuable, and I’m proud to be an introvert (and so grateful to be raising one).