As you’ve read earlier this month, I decided to give up Facebook for the month of February to see if it would help me be more present for my family and friends; and I wanted to find out how much more free time I’d find in my days by spending less time scrolling around on social media. (I didn’t go completely cold turkey. I did decide to allow myself a small amount of time once a week to check Facebook or Pinterest.)
Twenty days into my experiment, and I cheated. I checked Facebook and posted some comments this past weekend–three days in a row. I couldn’t stop! What broke me to do it? My nephew. He was in a wrestling state championship this weekend, and his coach was really good about posting onto Facebook any updates and scores. So I was checking Facebook often to see how he was doing (and how his teammates were faring). The great news is that he was the state runner-up for his weight class (as a freshman)! The bad news…I was like an addict and I started checking Facebook every hour or so ALL WEEKEND LONG. I spent a lot of time online–and I lost a lot of time—time I could’ve used to read more of a book I am trying to get through, time that I could’ve spent practicing softball in the back yard with Claire, and time that I could’ve used to sit and cuddle with Maddie on the couch and watch a movie.
I still have seven more days until the end of February, and I am going to try to get back on track this last week and get back to my experiment. Giving up Facebook and social media really does feel freeing. Less stressful. Less drama. More time to be present. I have said in the past that I am one that doesn’t really care for attention, and I really haven’t missed the virtual “attention” I get on Facebook. I don’t need “likes” and I don’t need to come up with a handful of witty, cute posts each day to make myself feel good, accepted, or important. What I do need is personal time with my friends and family to connect with them and let them know how important they are to me. Those personal connections are what truly provide happiness, fulfillment, and inner peace.
I know I will go back to checking Facebook at the end of the month. I’m grateful, however, that this experiment has taught me that I can check and post onto social media, but I don’t need to do it as often as I had been doing so. This experiment has taught me a wonderful lesson about myself, my relationships, being present and making time to spend with others.