I am probably one of the world’s worst parents. I wish I was more like other moms that have set routines for their children, only feed them organic meals, and limit TV time.
But that’s not me. My kids eat cookies and sweets more than twice a week. The twins sleep in my bed or on the couch way more nights than they sleep in their own bed. Our TV is on a lot, and the girls watch You Tube on our home computers daily. I don’t push them to read extra, and I let them read the minimum minutes required each night for homework if that’s all they want to do.
I would never be nominated for The Best Mom award by far.
But, the one rule I am consistent about and will not give up on is this: It’s important to be kind. I will not put up with unkind words or actions.
I believe my most important job as a mother is to raise kind, caring girls–girls that take care of others, give when they can, and want to make our community better.
I expect my girls to participate in community service events, and I expect the same from myself. I expect my girls to have nice things to say to others, and I expect this from me too. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t share it. There’s always something kind you can do for someone each day. Find ways to be kind.
I encourage my girls to help others, whether that’s in their classrooms, on the playground, or out in public.
I am inspired and proud when one of them asks for money to help an organization, or when one of them asks if we can volunteer for an organization.
Through acts of kindness, I’ve seen my daughters take quiet friends under their wing, select and provide needed supplies to their teachers, help around the house to raise money to give to organizations in need, ask if we can help bag or deliver food for families in need, and collect books and blankets to give to small children.
These kind actions mean more to me as their mother than any other routine. I don’t care if they wear mismatched clothes, if they watch too much TV or if they eat cereal and milk for dinner.
I care that they know the importance of giving and being kind to others, and that is the greatest skill I can teach them.